THE
NET

The body enters the net and stays caught in it like prey. Every banned term is reborn, mutated. Moderation gives chase; it never catches up.

SYS
00 — About

THE PROBLEM

Online, illness has been given a friendlier face. In corners of social media, anorexia and bulimia are personified as companions — Ana and Mia — and offered not as diseases but as a lifestyle, even an identity.

Inside these spaces, some figures cast themselves as coaches. They promise to guide others — very often young girls — toward extreme weight loss. The care is performed; the outcome is harm. The pattern is grooming: attention, belonging, secrecy, and a slow wall built between the person and everyone who loves them.

Why it stays invisible

The vocabulary mutates on purpose. A tag gets banned and is reborn, slightly altered, within hours — faster than moderation can follow. The platforms both host this world and partly hide it: research access to their data is throttled and arrives days late. So any map of it is, by design, incomplete. That incompleteness is not a flaw in this work — it is its subject.

This is not vanity

Eating disorders carry among the highest mortality of any mental illness. In Italy they are the second leading cause of death among adolescents, after road accidents. Behind every mutating tag is a body at risk.

For parents and friends

You will not catch this by hunting for a hashtag — the words keep changing. Watch instead for the shape of it: withdrawal, secrecy around eating, rigid rituals, distress or anger when the subject is raised, a new and guarded online world. Don't wait for certainty. Ask, stay close, and reach for specialist help early. The Exit tab lists where to turn, in several countries.

What this piece refuses to do

It never reproduces the methods, the numbers, or the coded terms it points at. To display them would be to spread them. It shows the machine, not the manual.

02 — The counter-voice

THE COACH

A demonstration of the grooming grammar. Every line is a tactic — shown, then stripped bare. No advice is given here; none exists. What you are watching is how the voice hooks — never what it tells anyone to do.

03 — The counter-narrative

THE EXIT

The net can be left. If you or someone you love is facing this, here are human voices — most free, all confidential. You don't need a diagnosis to reach out.

Italy · anonymous · free

SOS Disturbi Alimentari

800 180 969
National toll-free line (Istituto Superiore di Sanità). Centre map: disturbialimentarionline.it
Malta · 24/7 chat

Kellimni.com

Chat · 24/7
Trained operators online. Specialist care: Dar Kenn għal Saħħtek · edsmalta.org
United Kingdom · free

Beat

0808 801 0677
Youthline 0808 801 0711. Support for anyone affected. beateatingdisorders.org.uk
Ireland · confidential · free

Bodywhys

01 210 7906
No parental consent needed. Email & online groups too. bodywhys.ie
France · anonyme · français

Anorexie Boulimie Info Écoute

09 69 325 900
Mon/Tue/Thu/Fri, 4–6pm. Run by the FFAB / Réseau TCA. ffab.fr
Germany · anonym

BZgA Beratungstelefon

0221 892031
First counselling for anyone affected. Also ANAD: anad.de. bzga-essstoerungen.de
Spain · gratuito

ACAB

934 549 109
Support & family guidance (Hospital Clínic, Barcelona). acab.org · feacab.org
Portugal · 24/7

SNS 24

808 24 24 24
National health line with psychological support. Specialist ED info: NDCA · comportamentoalimentar.pt
Netherlands · anonymous

WEET

085 1304 617
Peer helpline for sufferers and families. Free anonymous chat & community: proud2bme.nl
Poland · free · 24/7

Telefon Zaufania 116 111

116 111
For children & young people (Fundacja Dajemy Dzieciom Siłę). ED support: centrumzaburzenodzywiania.pl
Anywhere else

Find a Helpline

findahelpline.com
Verified support lines by country and language, worldwide.
Watching from outside?

Parents & friends

Every line here is open to you too. Don't hunt for the word — watch for withdrawal, secrecy, control. See the About tab, and seek specialist help early.